We’re born to be happy. It’s the “Intel Inside” that the universe gifted us with, but most of us hold the false belief that happiness comes from the world through earning it, instead of an unconditional state of being within us. We’re programmed from the outset to believe that happiness is like this … if I make that sale or land that job or win that promotion or get out of debt or make that person see and do things my way, I’ll be happy. The older we get the more we see that this false belief is why we missed out on experiencing more joy and peace in our lives. It leads to a pathetic existence, constantly at the mercy of day to day events and the behavior of other people.
Believe it or not, happiness is our natural state … REALLY. The evidence for this fact is well established, but we’ve been bamboozled into believing happiness depends on our status and economics like money, jobs, things and other people. It’s a merry-go-round with little or no “merry” in it.
The cure that science prescribes is a spiritual one and, happily, it couldn’t be simpler. It’s being aware of the way we are reacting unhappily to the world around us and to understand our negativity as the unfortunate way society programmed our brain, wiring us for shame, inadequacy, anxiety and worry. It’s the way politics, corporations and other institutions endeavor to control us. Simply by becoming aware of these negative reactions without attempting to change them or judge the negativity and ourselves, allows the negativity to drop and for happiness to arise naturally by itself. Try it and see.
And one other thing: the research Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky and others have established that happiness is what leads to success, not the other way around.